Recent studies show that couples are fighting more to save their marriage today than in the recent past. Many couples are finding that although the tough economy is putting a severe strain on their marriage, they are able to successfully fight back.
A new book, “Project Happily Ever After,” written by, Alisa Bowman is assisting couples in staying happily married. A consciousness decision to save a marriage along with therapy and a willingness to change oneself is often a good start down the road of success. “A lot of little things can add up to make big change,” recites one wife who successfully saved her marriage. Having a baby, opening a business, and reduction in one spouse’s income are all things that can lead to greater stress in a marriage and make couples turn to divorce. Awareness that an individual hasn’t tried anything (or everything) to save their marriage can help them to make changes and rethink the “easy” option of divorce. However, both couples have to be willing to make efforts to save the marriage. One wife gave some suggestions for finding your way back to “happily ever after,” including these ideas: learning how to communicate better or more effectively; finding yourself as an individual; defining the problem; learning how to romance your spouse; and writing your spouse’s eulogy. While the last suggestions seem extreme it may present helpful insight and help you to remember all the “good” things about your spouse and the reason you married them in the first place. Even if these tips don’t help save your marriage they could likely help lead to a more amicable divorce.